Thanks Tina Fey

Today I was reading the New Yorker on the way to work and there was a great article about Working Moms written by Tina Fey. Usually my blog posts are inspired by Parents Magazine, articles in the New York Times, scientific studies published in the Journal of Child Development, or some friends’ stories or questions about their kids… but it looks like now The New Yorker will be added to my “what sparks my blogs” list.  And despite the fact that I do closely follow People Magazine’s Moms & Babies and understand that celebrities are parents, I never thought to focus a blog post on celebrity motherhood… until this New Yorker article.

Here Tina Fey addresses the challenges of being a working mom perfectly and in a way that I feel that many mom’s can relate to- even if they are only celebrities in their own homes and neighborhoods.  I truly recommend that you read the entire article (warning: you do need a subscription to read more than just an abstract).

What I actually loved the most from this article was the introduction and the conclusion (both of which are included in the abstract section).  Fey starts out her article by discussing a book that her child picked out at the library at school that had a picture of a witch on the cover and was titled “My Working Mom” and was a story about a Witch Mother who had to constantly fly away to work meetings and events and only ended “happily” when the Witch Mother makes it at the last minute for her daughter’s event.  Fey then spends quite a few pages discussing the stuggles of being a working mom and deciding whether to have more kids.

Like many moms, Tina Fey is concerned that he daughter is all worked up and upset that she isn’t around enough which led her to pick out the “My Working Mom” book.  Fey assumes that her child is trying to cope with her mother’s working schedule and find ways to feel better about her mom not being around all the time.  Fey is concerned about her own decisions to continue working and mistakenly assumes her daughter is as worked up about the situation as she is.  When Fey confronts her daughter about why she selected the book her daughter responds, “Mommy, I can’t read. I thought it was a Halloween book.”

While there are many times when children do select books or play in a way that helps them cope with a situation or process something challenging that is going on in their lives, there are also times when as adults we assume that kids have thought and planned out their actions in the same way we do, when in reality, sometimes kids are just kids.

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  1. Rachel

    I also enjoyed this article! It brings up a good point about projection – us projecting our guilt onto our children. Being a mommy of a puppy, most of my projection is about my guilt or anxiety about leaving her alone or that she will fight with another dog. For dogs, the emotions can transfer over to them, actually causing their anxiety or behavior! Hopefully, that won’t be the case with Tina Fey’s daughter.

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